It’s so easy to
man-bash, isn’t it? He doesn’t
communicate enough, he isn’t thoughtful, he doesn’t help out as much as I need
him to, etc. Really this can all be summed up by this phrase: he’s human.
Guess what? So are we! And I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty
sure my hubby could rack up quite the list if he wanted to and woman bash!
To tell you the truth, I’m not a big fan of Valentine’s
Day. I never was. My husband and I don’t really even celebrate
it because, a. our anniversary is in 2 weeks, and b. it was never important to
either of us. But as my boys grow, I realize how wonderful it is that there’s a
day set aside to remind us to extravagantly love, whether that means our
spouse, our kids, our friends, our parents, or a stranger who is all
alone. This morning, I woke up with
immeasurable joy knowing that I am blessed woman, surrounded by amazing men who
need no reminder to love me extravagantly every day.
So, in light of Cupid’s big day, I thought I’d take a moment
to thank my men, both big and small. As
I reflect on who I am and how I’ve got here, I realize that God has used all
these guys in some major ways.
Happy Valentine’s Day to my dad. He is the first man I ever loved. There was a time that we were not close, but
not by his choosing. There were times I
pulled away, but he has always faithfully waited for me. To this day, he remains the most gentle man I
know. Our visits always seem to short
and the years go by so fast. He taught
me what love looks like during a time when I could not see it. He made it a
point to live life with me, always taking me on new adventures, whether it was
ice skating, hiking through the woods, or teaching me all the swimming
strokes. He imparted in me a hunger for
knowledge, and fed it with frequent trips to the bookstore. He is a servant, and to this day shows me
what it means to be a parent and lay your life down, even when it’s not
convenient. Just last week, on one of
his only days off, he drove 30 minutes to pick me up and take me to the dr.,
then to the pharmacy, just to drop me back off and drive 30 minutes back
home. I hope that I can show my kids the
love, leadership, and servant-hood the way my dad has shown me. I’m glad I take after him in so many ways,
and am honored to be his daughter.
Happy Valentine’s Day to my brother-in-law. There was a time during my adolescence when
he was the only man I was allowed to see.
He was the cool guy with the red sports car, playing M.C. Hammer while
he took me to Chuck E. Cheese. He showed
me that life could be fun. He played air
drums while I danced around the living room on a Saturday morning. He made me forget a lot of life’s pain during
that time. He taught me that it’s
important to work hard, but not to take all of life’s woes too seriously. He still is one of the first to tell me how
proud he is of me, to cry when I’m crying, and to poke fun at me when I need to
lighten up. Thank you for loving my
sister the way you do, and showing your four girls what a great husband and
father looks like.
Happy Valentine’s Day to my sons. All three of them are so different, but so
perfect! Micah, with his compassionate
heart, is an absolute thrill to have in my life. Daily, we talk about God and His word. We pray together, encourage one another, and
enjoy each other’s company. His heart
provokes me. He is also a constant
reminder of God’s faithfulness. For
years we wondered if we’d ever have a child, and he’s the tangible evidence
that God does what He said He will do.
Noah, with his exuberant joy lightens the mood of our entire house. He smiles almost constantly (even when getting
disciplined) and he genuinely loves each member of our family in such a divine
way. He always thinks of others before
himself, and he teaches me every day that we should enjoy this life that we are
blessed with. Sam, with his fearless, adventurous
spirit has molded me into a woman who cannot lack spontaneity and who must let
go of expectations. This is a good
thing! I was rigid and scheduled, but I
have learned to slow down and enjoy more…and to always be prepared with gauze
and bandages! All three have servants’
hearts, going above and beyond what I ask them to do. All three are eager to help around the house,
with their siblings, and let us know how much they love us. You will all be amazing husbands one day,
because you are amazing men!
Lastly, Happy Valentine’s Day to the man I was created
for. No one else in the world gets me
like he does. He is the one my soul loves,
and if I reminisce about our beginnings, I see how God worked even before we
knew much of each other. From the very
first conversation that we had, we started becoming each other’s best
friends. He has taught me how to
selflessly love, how to be patient, how to be kind, how to be a servant, and
how to serve without grumbling or complaining.
He works so hard for our family, and comes home to wrestle with the
boys, help out with the dishes, and run an errand if I need him to. We’ve watched each other struggle through
difficult life issues, but he’s remained faithfully at my side through mine,
and I have remained faithfully at his side through his. I have learned more about I Corinthians 13
love by loving this man, which means he has been doing his job at helping me become
more Christ-like. I am honored and
blessed to be his wife, and forever and always consider it my life’s biggest
blessing and joy to be forever joined to him.
I am thankful for the men in my life, and I pray that you
find the time to reflect and thank all the men in yours! Happy Valentine’s Day!